Whether you have real experience in TS dating or are just fantasizing about it, this mini-guide can help you avoid all the most common mistakes and increase your chances of leaving a good first impression that may lead to a great first date. While there is no universal key to success, the following guidelines can help you quickly learn the major dos and don’ts of TS online dating.
1. Do Not Ask Too Much Too Soon
Transitioning is a highly intimate process and one that people rarely want to discuss with someone they have just met. Therefore, when you first start talking to your potential love interest, you should not skip straight to questions related to being trans, transitioning, genital matters, and similar topics. Keep the conversation light, explore each other’s likes and dislikes, and just get to know each other. Save the intimate questions for when you get more intimate and even then, make sure you are respectful at all times.
2. Do Not Reduce The Person To The Gender
“I have always wanted to date a transgender person” is a sentence no one likes to hear. It is just as nonsensical as saying that you have always wanted to date a girl or a guy. You are dating a person, not a category. Do not over-emphasize the person’s transness and avoid generalizations that would make your potential partner feel like you are just curious about being with a trans person and not genuinely interested in the actual person you are dating.
3. Honesty Is The Best Policy
Be open and honest about what you want and what you expect. Whether you are exploring your sexuality, looking for a fling or want to meet someone you would like to spend the rest of your life with, you should let the other person know what you want and need, so you could make sure you are on the same page.
4. Forget About Stereotypes And Prejudice
Being a trans person is nothing to be ashamed of and the same goes for dating one. If you worry about what others are going to say, then you are simply not ready for TS dating. It is also crucial to avoid basing your expectations on stereotypes and adult content. We are all just human and everyone is unique, so just forget about labels and enjoy the time you spend with the person you like.
5. TS Dating Is Still Just Dating
In the end, what matters is only whether the sparks are there and whether you and your potential partner are compatible. As long as you make each other laugh, enjoy each other’s company, and appreciate each other, everything else is irrelevant. Thus, as long as you do not focus on the gender but on finding (and keeping) someone special, you are on the right track.